Seeing family and friends is supposed to be enjoyable. However, many people get anxious about the holiday season during challenging times. Catching up often means explaining events you’d rather avoid discussing, and it’s common to receive unsolicited questions or advice. If you’re currently dealing with infertility, keep these tips in mind while navigating emotional situations.
At University Reproductive Associates, with locations in New Jersey and New York, our team of reproductive specialists is here to help you with your infertility, and that includes supporting you during emotional times.
The most important thing to remember when addressing infertility is that it doesn’t need to be addressed. You’re under no obligation to tell your story, answer questions, or explain yourself.
If a family member or guest steers the conversation in a direction you’re uncomfortable with, you can change the topic or politely excuse yourself. If you’re easily flustered, you can prepare statements beforehand, such as “I’d rather not dwell on that. Let’s discuss something else.”
Having healthy boundaries during the holidays can be critical for your mental health. Remember, even people with good intentions can cause harm. Reassurances, sympathy, and advice can be uncomfortable to sit through, especially when you didn’t ask for it.
If you feel like someone is crossing a line, don’t let them. Instead, reinforce your boundaries and remind them that you’re just trying to enjoy the holidays like everyone else.
Babies and children tend to be present at family or neighborhood events, making it challenging to avoid thoughts about your fertility.
You might find yourself thinking hurtful things about yourself and others, only to feel guilty immediately after. If you begin to feel shame, envy, grief, or isolation, remember that these feelings will pass, and they do not define you.
Life goes on after infertility, whether you decide to pursue treatment or not. You can achieve happiness and fulfillment through relationships, friendships, community, animals, and hobbies.
Instead of discussing your history of infertility, try talking about other plans for the future, like an upcoming vacation or a new house.
When you’re ready to revisit the idea of having a child, fertility specialists can help. At University Reproductive Associates, we approach every case with compassion and care.
Our team will conduct a comprehensive evaluation of you and your partner to determine the cause of the infertility. From there, we can decide how to proceed. Your personalized fertility plan might include:
Don’t let infertility rob you of beautiful holiday memories. Our specialists at University Reproductive Associates support whatever decision you make, and so should your loved ones.
To learn more and discuss your options, call the URA location closest to you or request an appointment online.
